Ultrasounds on Facebook: TMI? – Digits – WSJ
Lately I’ve noticed that a lot of friends and acquaintances are announcing their pregnancies — and posting their sonograms — on Facebook.
Excerpt found on blogs.wsj.com
I’m getting to the age where many of my friends are starting families — and I’m just as happy to hear their news as my friends are to share it. but at least a dozen of my Facebook connections have taken it a step further by uploading their sonograms for everyone to see.
While I realize pregnancy is an exciting process, I wonder if broadcasting the insides of your body, much less your undeveloped child, to co-workers and friends you haven’t talked to since middle school is sharing a bit too much. it seems like one thing to post pictures of your expanding belly, which everyone can see with their own eyes, but another to upload photos of an unformed being that, quite literally, isn’t ready for viewing yet.
I have one Facebook connection who recently changed her profile picture to an early sonogram; the fetus looks like little more than two large cells. the woman, who is close to 40 years old, was overjoyed to announce her pregnancy via a status update — and I was delighted to hear the news. but I also worry: She’s a high-risk pregnancy and, God forbid, should anything go wrong, would she regret broadcasting her unborn child like that?
This is the first generation where digital images of sonograms are readily available and parents-to-be can share them with friends and family in a click. (There are even mall ultrasound portrait studios, like Fetal Fotos, where you can pick up pictures of your bundle-of-joy-to-be after wolfing down a Cinnabon at the food court.) What’s more, the ubiquity of social networking raises a whole host of thorny questions about personal privacy: In an age where we’re engaged in digital communities that connect us to strangers and siblings alike, just how much do you share and reveal about yourself online? Where do you draw the line, if you do at all, between keeping in touch and over-sharing?
Sure, people show sonograms to close family and friends. but is uploading them to social networking sites for co-workers and distant friends to see going too far? Or do we just need to redefine our comfort zones and notions of privacy in this age of digital sharing? Readers, what do you think? How and when did you reveal your pregnancy to your acquaintances and colleagues?
Jill – I understand your point but people post their wedded bliss all over facebook and there are a lot of same sex couples who wish for the same and are unable so does that mean wedding photos should be banned too? there are numerous situations that I think your way of thinking can be applied to – I am not saying it is wrong, but think of how it can be applied to the struggles and cares of other people as well. if we are going to be considerate of the fertility challenged than we have to be considerate to ALL situations. (There are people hurt in accidents that leave them unable to walk – does that mean their friends shouldn’t post about the fact they ran a marathon, shouldn’t post photos of them running.) Seriously, we could get very ridiculous about it…… Stella – out of wedlock pregnancy is shameful and offensive to you? I have friends in their 30′s who believe that a legal marriage is just a piece of paper and have pledged themselves to each other without having a wedding. so their children are born "out of wedlock" and you tell me they are shameful?!? Please….. Its how some friends and family stay connected and if you happen to be on their friends list then I suppose you get a glimpse too. if you don’t like what is posted on Facebook here is a great idea – DELETE YOUR PROFILE INSTEAD OF EXPECTING THE WORLD TO CONFORM TO YOUR NEEDS, WANTS AND STANDARDS!